When Kids Called You Names: Does Bullying Cause Eating Disorders?

January 26th, 2012

Did kids or siblings call you names when you were little?
Did you have stomachaches and begin to develop an eating disorder including bulimia when you were in school?
Did people beat you up after school?

Did you answer yes to any of these questions?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to know that bullying leads to children’s eating disorders or other dysfunctional behaviors. More and more children are finding they need treatment for an eating disorder who are younger than 12.

Bullying is dangerous and can even lead to suicide. The internet has exposed the terrible truth about the effects of bullying. Remember, Phoebe Green, who hung herself at age 15 because of cyber bullying.

Only recently have we as health care professionals begun to look at the seriousness of bullying particularly after reported teenage suicides. Does your child use the internet? If so, be alert. Know that the internet has exposed the terrible truth about the effects of bullying, severe enough to drive some kids to self-harm or suicide.

Bullying effects millions of students but parents and teachers don’t understand the serious outcomes. When professionals or parents tell kids to ignore teasing, or to just get on with it, this not the kind of advice or understanding they need.

What does bullying looks like?

1. Emotional or verbal abuse looks like “Fatty fatty two by four, can’t get thru the kitchen door” or Piggy, piggy!
2. “Hey Jew boy.”
3. Cyber abuse is on Facebook where everyone from your school can see it.
4. Cruel emails can be sent from anywhere.

A person can be picked on by an individual or group with more power. Someone with more power may be peers, older kids, even teachers or parents. Bullies choose their victims because they look different, have a different religion, or are disabled. Bullies pick on a person simply because the person is shy or is gay or is a lesbian.

We must never forget that bullying is a severe form of abuse, i.e. emotional abuse, verbal and sexual abuse. Being excluded socially is a form of abuses. Verbal bullying, cruel email, or cyber-bullying (posting insults online) are forms of abuse.

Bullying like most forms of abuse is ongoing, like water dripping on a stone. The person being bullied lives in a constant state of fear. Everything in his or her life is affected. School work and health are both affected. A person being bullied can get stomach-aches, diarrhea, and headaches from the stress.
Kids abused by peers or family members can suffer from depression, low-self-esteem, and anxiety occasionally or a great deal of the time. They might even consider suicide!

Here are 8 tips to help you protect yourself from bullies. What advise will help if you feel bullied or know someone who is being bullied?

1. Tell someone about it, a teacher, a friend, a parent — tell anyone but tell right away.
2. Stick together with your friend who is being bullied — never leave him or her alone.
3. Learn to ignore the bully. Don’t add wood to the fire.
4. Don’t get physical (or angry) with the bully.
5. Practice feeling and looking confident. Posture is a give-away.
6. take small steps to be in charge of your life. This is where a good coach can help.
7. Talk about the bully and bullying to anyone and everyone. The more public you are, the bully will hide out.
8. Find true friends, friends that can offer you unconditional friendship.

If you’re a kid, find an adult who can guide you step by step through the process of taking charge of your life.

As you grow in confidence, you’ll stand taller knowing that no one will bully you again.

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Cauchemar

January 11th, 2011

“Vous êtes toutes des féministes! Je hais les féministes!” (You’re all feminists! I hate feminists!).

With these words, Marc Lépine opened fire at Montréal’s École Polytechnique, killing 14 women and injuring 10 other women and four men before turning the gun on himself. The event took place on December 6, 1989, just a few miles from where I was living at the time.

Lépine’s words rang in my ears when, 21 years later, not far from my home in Tucson, I learned that a young gunman had killed six and injured 14 others in an attempted assassination of Arizona Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords.

Loughner, like Lépine, was a troubled loner who was rejected for military service. Loughner was kicked out of school a few months before the shooting; Lépine dropped out of school, failed in two attempts to win admission to the École Polytechnique and blamed feminists for ruining his life.

While there has been much speculation about Loughner’s ties to far right politics, I can’t help wondering why he fixated on Giffords, a moderate Democrat who had been the youngest woman elected to the Arizona state senate in 2002, rather than on her more prominent male counterparts.

In recent decades, we’ve made great strides in improving women’s access to education and participation in the workforce and politics, but violence against women is still tragically widespread. In a 10-country study of women’s health and domestic violence, the World Health Organization found that

  • between 15% and 71% of women reported physical or sexual violence by a husband or partner, and
  • one in five women report experiencing sexual abuse as children.

The health consequences of violence can include not only injury or death, but also an increased risk of depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, sleep difficulties, emotional distress and eating disorders.

A 2006 study found a high correlation between family violence and disordered eating. About 30% of women with eating disorders were sexually abused as children (Connors and Morse, 1993), and 28% of young women practicing some form of weight control also reported sexual abuse (McCreary Centre Society, 1998).

A U.S. study found that 45% of women with bulimia reported being physically victimized at least once during an adult relationship (Root and Fallon, 1988). Of these, 23% had been raped, 23% had been battered, and 6% had been both raped and battered. A similar study by Bulik and Sullivan (1993) found that 40% of women with bulimia as compared with 5.9% of women without bulimia had been battered one to three times per week during an adult relationship. The risk of battering was 6.8 times higher for women with bulimia.

Yes, we have come a long way, but women and girls continue to suffer disproportionately from violence at the hands of the state, the community and the family.

Sources:

www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs239/en/
www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/ncfv-cnivf/publications/femrav-eng.php

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Eating Disorders Threaten Future of Figure Skating

February 14th, 2010

Figure skater Jenny Kirk offers a rare, brave and compassionate insider’s perspective on an eating disorder crisis threatening the future of her  sport. Thanks to Colleen Perry for the find!

Jenny Kirk on Figure Skating’s Eating Disorder Epidemic

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Older Women and Eating Disorders

January 18th, 2010

By Jeanne Rust, PhD


Body dissatisfaction: it’s not just for teens and young women anymore.

Eating disorders are on the rise among middle aged and older women. And they are often misdiagnosed — not only because they’re unexpected — but because weight loss and changes in appetite can also occur as a result of illness or medication.

Our culture’s obsession with youth, thinness and looking good can cause many older women to experiment with compulsive exercise or dieting to ward off the signs of aging.
Older women may also experience increased trauma as the result of the death of a spouse, divorce, children leaving home, menopause or a combination of sources. For some women, even natural aging can be traumatic. They look in the mirror and no longer see the bright, hopeful face of their youth.

When a traumatic event occurs, some women may choose to focus on the things they can control — like their eating, weight and fitness — rather than experience the pain of events that are completely out of their control (like the aging process).

A recent study in Austria is one of the first to look at poor body image and eating disorders in older women. The study included a random group of 475 women between the ages of 60-70.
90% of the women in the study felt fat, and 60% were dissatisfied with their bodies! Over 80% of the women made great efforts to maintain or lose weight. 4% of the women had clinical eating disorders, and another 4% had at least one symptom of an eating disorder, such as abuse of laxatives, diuretics, vomiting, bingeing, or compulsive exercise.

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Gut Reactions: Eating Disorders and Digestive Problems

July 30th, 2009

By Dr. Dawn Bantel, Medical Director, Mirasol Eating Disorder Recovery Centers

Dr. Dawn BantelI don’t think that I’ve ever met an eating disordered client that didn’t struggle with digestive issues. The digestive tract is directly affected by binging, purging and restricting. The discomfort from digestive problems is a common obstacle to recovery. It’s such a challenge for women to adhere to their meal plans when their bodies are rebelling.

Women with eating disorders often experience heartburn, indigestion, gas, bloating and constipation. Fortunately, naturopathic supplements are very effective in assisting efficient digestion. Using digestive enzymes with meals assists in the breakdown of foods. A probiotic supplement can reduce gas, bloating and constipation. Drinking aloe vera juice can calm heartburn. And I often prescribe a magnesium citrate supplement to ensure regularity.

The whole foods approach is healing in itself. Whole foods supply needed fiber. Many people have too little fiber in their diets. I may encourage the use of ground flax meal to increase one’s fiber intake. Water is important for regularity, especially in the desert environment. A minimum of half your weight in ounces should be ingested each day.

Finally, the most important “supplement” is reducing stress and anxiety. Our program emphases the creation of stress-management tools for each client. Yoga, bodywork and healthy exercise are encouraged as lifestyle changes. I also help women train their bodies by allowing regular bathroom time. These are all important and effective components of healthy digestion.

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